Monday, June 29, 2009

I Hate This Crap

I hate this crap, I hate having to deal with things I don’t really care about arguing about. Don’t get me wrong, it isn’t that I didn’t love my mom, but it is different. I can’t forget the abuse I went through, but I get tired of family telling me I should never talk about it, that I should never mention it to people. Then there are some of those family members, only a very few who say, “How do you know your experiences aren’t false memories?” I shake my head, I grieve but I know because there are those, like the one last night who told me they were among the chief of sinners and asked me to forgive them. There are those who I was involved in various inappropriate sexual activities with who know and are here to talk to. Memories are not always the most pleasant of things to go through, why doesn’t God take the ones we hate away? Why do we have to continue to be hurt, confused, and try to find ways to be accepted by those who should understand most? I don’t know the answers, I just know.

This morning, I knew it was bound to happen, but my sister and I got into it, I was packing to leave, I just couldn’t deal with it. It was over of all things, picking out pictures of our mother for a photo montage at the funeral. I have put these things together in the past for people and enjoy it, but it is just impossible with the time limitations and expectations that continue. We are going this morning to pick out the cemetery spot, then we have to meet with the people at the funeral home to pick out a casket, (for me, donate my parts to those who can use them, cremate the rest and scatter the ashes across the Gulf of Mexico in Florida, somewhere between FT. Walton Beach and Destin.) My sister went out and purchased a new suit for my mom, she has to go pick out underwear, and I stay confused, can someone tell me why someone who has died needs new clothes and above all, new underwear? Then those pictures; the funeral home wants us to pick out 40 at most, we have a pile of about 120, keep this one, get rid of that one, but we really need this one over here, then there is the one we forgot about in the Bible. Do you get my point? I know I am a strange cookie, again, I loved my mom in the end, I know I have forgiven her, I know she is in Heaven, but I can’t forget the sins. It is a strange place, but to be honest, I don’t really care all that much about the photos, but my sister does, after all she has been here, she has had to deal with everything, and I don’t know if she should have, because she has many of the same memories and heartaches. They have all brought about her pain and this morning, well, all I can say is I hope the neighbors in this apartment complex were in church, (I don’t think they were) because if not, they heard much of the heartache, pain and yes, I believe hurt thrown out by the both of us towards each other. There was a time to make up, but not until after I had packed my bags to go stay with someone else. I can’t explain it, I don’t know how, I just know that neither my sister and I should be doing all of this alone, and I guess we have had some help from my moms union, but there are things we shouldn’t have to be doing. I will have my funeral plans laid out and clear prior to my death; I think I will start making those wishes like the one above about being cremated made clear and plain.

We don’t always think about the grief we or others go through until we are the ones responsible for something like a funeral. I know this morning I needed prayers, not just a generic, general run of the meal prayer, but specific prayer during the moment, and I have to be honest, I didn’t feel them. I have at times, but this morning, nope. Later on, yes, but at a certain moment during a time my sister and I could have really used it, the truth is, again, nope. That doesn’t mean people weren’t praying, I know that, but I also know, I questioned for a glimpse in time, where is God right now?

I know I am working on this documentary regarding my life and the life in part of my mother, I know there are times as a writer, and one who loves film, I would love to have had a camera running, but this is real life, it is not make believe, the hurts, pains and struggles are real, I don’t know how you manipulate that. Maybe with some good acting we can recreate certain things that have happened on my journey, I hope so, not to bring hurt to those involved by having to relive the moments, but to share truth and reality with people who need healing from past pains, understanding of things inflicted on others, but most of all an understanding that although at times difficult and hard, healing does, and can take place. I still believe my story, and ultimately my mothers’ stories are stories of love and forgiveness. Unfortunately, many of those experiencing this want to hold it in, only share the good things with others, much like many Christians do in their faith walk. But for some reason, I believe God expects more from us. He wants us to shout from the mountain tops of the joys that can be there, the reality of salvation and hope for a lost world experiencing many of the same things. There are those shouting those things, sometimes those hearing don’t know the price one has to pay to do that. I have to be honest here, I know many in the church, many over the years, experiencing the benefits of a long reply to an email, a chat on a message board or chat room, a phone call or a face to face visit, don’t always understand the cost to me and my family. I don’t say that for any other reason than to say, I know there have been many others who have had to pay a price. I know there are many others who know and feel the pain of a loved one discouraging you from sharing that “dirty laundry.” I also know that healing comes from release, and sometimes releasing the hurt, pain and disgust is the only healing we can find solace in. I also know this, nothing and I mean nothing, even begins to compare to what it cost my Lord my Savior, my Forgiver, my Leader, to give up and sacrifice himself for me the way he did. To be rejected, and abused, spat on, and beaten because he loved me when he had the full power to stop it all. I wonder sometimes, if those who are so critical of sharing “dirty laundry” understand or know the importance of seeing captives set free in the same way Jesus and many of his followers over the years have?

I am aware that many in my family read these things, some even get upset that I say the things I do, let me make clear, it doesn’t mean I don’t love you, it doesn’t mean I haven’t forgiven you! If that were the case, I would have no hesitation using names, but I will say this, there comes a point in time, that I long for, I cherish you to come beside me, to admit the sins of our past, let’s shout from the mountain tops, in honesty and truth, just like the Apostle Paul who openly and frequently spoke of his past as to the ability of God through the blood of his son Jesus Christ and the power of the Holy Spirit to change lives. It is one of the ways we can confess to the world as to the real power of God. I know I have my own sins which I have written about and spoken about that are quite frankly, embarrassing. But I have seen the captives set free, I have cried with a person going through abuse, I have rebuked the individual who would hide and deny the pain of an innocent. In all of this, I know God has worked, and I know my God will welcome me into his kingdom with open arms and a word of encouragement and love. To forgive the sin is one thing, to deny the sin, to deny the work of the Holy Spirit and to allow your story to be used is quite something else. Our world is filled with innocent children who struggle, whether a child in age, or a child in spiritual things. Jesus meant exactly what he said when he stated it is better to have a heavy stone tied around your neck and you be thrown into the sea than to cause a little one to stumble. To not provide the tools and methods needed to provide salvation and hope to a person going through struggles is no different. If we have been set free by the embrace of Christ arms which was stretched across a cross, and his blood that poured down that cross, then let us be willing to be totally honest, and share in all things of the work Christ has done in our lives. Is their pain and difficulty if we do this? You be there are, but is it of value to carry on the work of Jesus in reaching those he loves and wants to touch through us? You bet there is, the question then becomes, what is more important, maintaining our pride and integrity, or doing the work of Jesus by showing his ability to change the life of a sinner just like us.

In the last few days I have had to accept something that quite frankly is hard to accept. In some ways, I am a lot like my mother. After all of the years of not living at home, not being around, I know it was a measure of escape for me. I also know though, that I didn’t want to think about being like her in anyway. While I have learned and heard many things about my mom I admire, I have to admit, I focused on the ugly instead of the beautiful. I know why that is, and I am not denying the reality or need in some ways to do that. But I have also learned there has to come a time, in real forgiveness that we focus on the beauty, we have to throw the stones down, even against the ones who would do us the most harm if we are to be like Jesus, after all, isn’t that exactly what Jesus did when he said, “Father forgive them for they know not what they do,” when he was being nailed to the cross. That doesn’t mean that the circumstances changed, it doesn’t mean that the nail scars went away, in fact we know they didn’t, they remained and they were there for all to see. We even have indication to believe that we will see those scars on Jesus when we see him in Heaven, for those who will see him in Heaven. The scars remain, and sometimes they are used as reminders.

One of the things I have learned I am a lot like my mom in is her desire to stand up for the oppressed. Her story here has been amazing, to hear of her attitude, she really was a woman who deserves a movie made about her. Her stand in the face of personal, and physical pain to stand for justice and equality are among the things of legend, especially when considering where she came from. I could say a lot more here, but will say, nationally my mother had a reputation to stand for equality and justice, to stand in your face, and tell you exactly what she thought. She wanted to be at the front of protests when dogs were being released, rubber bullets being shot and teargas flying. She would tell people right to their face in management to kiss her ass, she was standing up for the people she represented. She would call a woman a whore to her face who was trying to pick up a co-worker who was married with a good wife back home. She could get violent at times as well, she would threaten to tell a woman twice her size that she needed to shut up or she would pick her up and throw her ass out the window of a 12 story motel room they were staying in. During this Fourth of July week, I realize my mother was a firecracker willing to explode at the voice of freedom and justice at any point in time. She didn’t care what people thought of her but she would speak her mind and stand up for what was right. I know a big reason for that, it is because as beautiful as my mom was when she was young, as hard as she worked, she had difficulty finding those things in her own life. She was in fact, I believe driven to do good by God. Along the way, she had some terrible mishaps, but she did what she did and eventually in the last 3 years of her life found Jesus on her knees. I didn’t know that story until yesterday, it throws a rock in the face of many who knew her, including family who thought she was already saved, but she knew she wasn’t she knew she hadn’t trusted Jesus yet. She still had a long ways to go, and although she was older, and had trouble getting through some things like alcohol, she still surrendered, knew of her weaknesses, and had others there to help. She wanted to confess and admit her sins to her children, I know she did that for me, I know because she told me on my last journey at Christmas with her on words, it was the second time she had done that, but the last time was not because I needed to let her k now that I forgave her.

I am sorry to write this way, but I firmly believe I must use the words that best fit the situation and I have to speak the truth of my heart here, but I have often wondered, “why has all of this shit had to happen to me and those around me?” I have to admit, there are times I get pissed at God, but you know what, I think God can deal with it. I have also found this that honest with God has led to, at least for me in all of my imperfections, a close relationship with God. Not a religious experience where I am the focus or what I want is the most important thing. Instead I want in all things, in all ways for Jesus to get all the recognition, praise and glory for the work he has done. I want those who God loves so much who has been hurt and rejected, who has felt real pain, neglect, abuse and more to feel the loving touch of a God who would love them without condition, just as they are, sin, dirt, garbage and all. Yes Jesus confronted sin and had a lot of things to say about it, to the very religious people who would stop him from disgracing their beliefs and personalities, after all, Jesus came for the lost, he came to draw them to him, not chase them away. This ministry is growing in service, I see that every day, I see that again in my own life and my own needs. I know there is the need for more people to be on the forefront doing these things, I know because I have so many to share and be with that need to feel the touch of this Jesus who loves them so much. We are the hands and feet of Jesus. Who do we want to control the paths those feet go on, or the work of the hands?

I know I kind of rambled on today, but these are things I had to reflect on, they are experiences I had to share, I know more so for me in all likelihood than for those others out there. Maybe God will use it, I don’t know. I have work to do yet so I have to go. Thanks for listening, and continued prayers, not just for me, but the multitudes of those going through similar experiences.

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Saturday, June 27, 2009

Latest Update: Goodbye Mom

The truth is, this journey I am on has just started. I know that and must say a few things related to the journey some have taken with me, and some will take in a different form on down the road.

The last week has been rather astounding. It started with a band called SHEL staying at my house, doing a number of concerts with them as a host, host venue, promoter, and opening act for over a weeks worth of shows. There is so much more besides that thought although that provided an escape I so desperately needed, including the journey with my mother and the continuation of my own Christmas Journey Home. A crazy week including having to put a dog down, the house we are leasing having it’s landlord file bankruptcy, my son’s sentencing hearing which has yet to occur, then the emergency trip to visit and see my mother before she died, all of this on a ministry income that is minimal at best and difficult to near impossible at worst. That said, I still have assurance that God is God.

I received a phone call at 4:30 AM on Thursday morning, June 25. I realized, if I ever want to see my mom alive, I needed to get home. We decided that my wife would stay to be with our son for his court hearing on June 30, and I would take the 20 some hour drive. I left Wichita around noon on Thursday, with $200 in my pocket and a check for $100; I had a full tank of gas and a fresh oil change. I stopped in Paducah Kentucky, and had a friend to The Virtual Pew give some money. I had another friend offer a place to stay and help with the expenses which we are going to take him up on, on the way home. I have discovered there are all kinds of expenses in death, not just the loss of a friend, a loved one, but the cost of an obituary, the cost of opening a grave and more, you see my mom has died, and now a son who had issues with his mom, and a sister who he is close to are responsible to provide the arrangements. There is help though, there is wisdom from those around who loved our mom.

There has been healing take place between a son, daughter, and mother. There has been healing because there has been repentance. I won’t go into detail here, there are some things too personal to go into at the moment, maybe some time in the future. In the last 96 hours I have had 10 hours of sleep, including 4 hours of sleep late early this morning. I am revived in more ways than one could imagine.

I came to my mothers house last night around midnight to try and get some sleep, I had 4 hours of sleep in the last 72 hours prior to that. I had been with my mother all day, along with my sister. I drove immediately to the Christian Care Home in Johnson City from Wichita. My mom was lying there, looking better than she had the last time I saw her, but breathing hard, her eyes closed, her spirit seemingly, almost non existent. I went to her, bent down, held her hand, and told her; “Mama, this is your son Michael, I am here and I love you. You don’t have to hold on any more.” She actually opened her eyes, looked at me for no more than 5 seconds, and then closed her eyes again.

I spent the day with my mom, refusing to leave her until coming home last night around midnight. The hospice nurse told us she was just holding on for something. Her legs and arms had started to marble, her breathing was deep, she was grasping for air. The nurse stated there maybe someone she needed to hear from. I suggested my children and my sister’s children call. The nurse talked us through what to tell them. My mom could hear, she was aware of what was going on, but would be non responsive and would be making the gurgling sounds, but the kids needed to tell her they loved her, and that it was okay for her to go on.

I was surprised the calls started coming in, my sisters 3 boys, her former husband, and my wife and daughter, but not my son. I was told later that my son had called within an hour of my moms’ final decent. I was called after an hour or so of sleep, and got up right away to go back to the hospital. I got there, my mom was breathing heavy, I held her hand on one side, my sister held her hand on the other. She breathed deep, and slowly. After about 10 minutes, she breathed her last breath.

This morning has been chaotic, but I am grateful, I have seen many friends who were blessed by my mother, an apparent United Steelworkers Union Hero. In fact she was the first woman ever inducted into the East Tennessee Steelworker Hall of Fame, things I didn’t know, wasn’t aware of until meeting these people. She stood up long and hard to fight for, protect, and maintain working people’s integrity, and the integrity and rights of women. My mother had a national reputation for a reason. Apparently the stories are legendary, I have more to hear and I look forward to it. I was there though, I know my mother sought true repentance for the things she did to me, and I know she came to know God through a series of events, from reading and being a part of The Virtual Pew, which I wasn’t aware of until my last visit to Tennessee and recent discussions with Pastor Roy. I know she had detailed and had a terrible thing forgiving herself, but in that struggle, she discovered the ultimate forgiveness from a savior that loves and cares for all people.

I don’t know what the future holds; I continue to film what I can of my last parts of the film My Christmas Journey regarding not just my life but in many ways the life and struggle of my mother. I am more convinced now, more than ever, that my mothers’ story is as much a part of my story as anything I would have ever imagined. I know that because of the obvious change in her life, her obvious regret for sin, but her ongoing desire to help and speak up for others.

The funeral is going to be on Friday at Appalachian Funeral Home in Johnson City Tennessee. After burial we are holding a memorial visitation at the place she fought for, and spoke up for the disenfranchised, her union hall, United Steelworkers Union Hall, Local 7739, 121 ½ Spring Street, Johnson City Tennessee, 37604. In lieu of flowers we are requesting gifts in memory and honor of her to the Johnson City Tennessee Hospice and the United Steelworkers Local 7739 on behalf of the ongoing work needed to support the disenfranchised. For more information regarding the services you can contact the Appalachian Funeral Home in Johnson City. Services will be held again on Tuesday, June 30 at Appalachian Funeral Home, with graveside services at Onks Cemetery on the Johnson City, Jonesboro Highway, followed by a reception and time with friends and family at Local Union Hall 7739.

On a side bar, God comes through, a generous offer has been offered my wife to fly her here to be with me for the funeral but to also be with my sister and family friends. We are hoping our daughter, who is at a convention in Columbus Ohio gets to come down for the funeral as well. God continues to meet our needs through various means, methods, and certainly people. I am grateful for that, I am grateful for you.

In closing on this strange posting, I know God is good, I know God provides, but I also know that God heals and God Saves. I know because God was good enough to provide healing between my mother and I, he was good enough to provide and allow forgiveness to take place, he was good enough to save and offer the love to my mom she needed. I can’t explain the peace that comes from God at this moment. I do know the scripture is true though, God provides peace that passes all understanding. While I can’t explain, the peace I feel, I do know it is peace I experience, not just in the passing of my mother, but the forgiveness, and healing from all sin. I didn’t know a real mother for most of my life as a child, I have experienced it as a husband with my wife, but I got a taste of God’s love in allowing me to experience the love of a mother as a child. While some may be amazed at this potential, especially those who know my story, I am not; God continues to amaze me everyday with the reality that he is God.

I appreciate the continued prayers and support, we need them, but I want to especially thank those who have been involved in the process, you continue to be a tool, used by God and I am grateful.

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Thursday, June 25, 2009

My Last Conversation With My Mom

This morning at 6:46 AM I likely got to speak to my mother for the last time. I received the call from my sister that my mother likely wasn’t going to make it through the day. I am typing as I prepare to leave this morning to go back to Upper East Tennessee alone. My story with my mother is long and complicated, I said to her though that I loved her, and that for her to not try to hold on for me to get to Tennessee. I told her that I would see her in Heaven. This was important for her to hear according to the Hospice nurse that handed me the phone. I don’t think my mother will be alive by the time I leave around noon today, and take the approximate 20 hour drive alone.

Ministry is hard, harder than many realize. I know my wife sent out a request in the last week or so to help with funds. It really kind of sucks to be honest, no money came in, I am leaving this morning, and the truth is, right now I don’t have the money to get home. I have enough to get there hoping there are no emergencies along the way. I realize times are tough, because they are tough on our family and this ministry. It just seems like things pour all at once instead in bearable moments. Our landlord who we were leasing our home with an option to buy just filed bankruptcy, go figure that one, then there are additional strains such as my son has a court case next week and we have been trying to reach him to detail the information to my mom and we haven’t gotten a return call, don’t even know if he has gotten the message. Then my doctors office withholds medication I need because I have to have some testing done which I haven’t been notified about, then to top everything off, I took our little wiener dog in yesterday to the humane society because he has killed some chickens, and has had an attitude, they inform us they can only put him down as opposed to giving him a chance. Yep, life sucks sometimes.

I don’t write this to complain, I write this to say there is hope. I know that, hopefully you know that. While I don’t know how I will get home, I know that God will work away and his will, will be done. I find joy in knowing that my mother in her later years made a real decision for Christ, a miracle I didn’t expect. My wife will stay at home to go to the trial with my son, and her recent surgery would have made the drive very hard on her, but things are the way they are. I’ll be honest, a little help getting home, covering the costs would be great, I just spent $125 I don’t have to get the car ready for the trip this morning. I will be mooching on people while there and am praying and hoping the funds come in while I am there to somehow be able to get home. I am praying for no tragedy or difficulty along the way, I am praying that my mom will pass peacefully and that today, she will enter the arms of a Christ who can forgive all sin, including the sins of a mom who had a hard time being a mom.

I will have The Virtual Pew phone with me, would love to talk as I can, the number is 316-258-3952. I am grateful for a lot of things, most of all a Savior who still provides, secondly a family that loves, and thirdly a ministry and group of friends who understand.

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Monday, June 22, 2009

I Could Say A Lot Of Things, But What I Will Say Is

I don’t know how to feel right now, in fact I don’t know if I even want to share how I feel about anything right now. There is the good stuff, heck that is easy, there is the hard stuff, shoot, even that is easy, but then there are the painful things, the confusion, frustration, hurt, anger and all. There is the feeling of how do I survive everything I am going through? Where are the friends? Has this ministry really helped anyone? Why do Christians still take advantage of others? I could go on and on. Please, understand, today is more for me than anyone, and I really don’t want any sympathy or anything like that, I am actually kind of sick of false or fake sympathy, but that is another story. I am busy, I know God has used me to bless, help and touch others, but I am tired, I need time for me, but when I take that time others suffer, even today, a 50 so year old woman was trying to justify to me why she wouldn’t involve the law when children were being abused. “God help those children, God teach those adults a lesson about the pain.” I know, hard words but it is how I feel. I won't even touch on the wrestling bruhaha here in Kansas at the moment. It is amazing though, people treat your son like crap and then expect him to come back and be treated like crap some more. People are users, you give and give, and then it seems like some, (far from all, thank God!) think some are dumb enough to walk back and be treated like crap again, like any of us enjoy that.

Let’s see, an explanation of what has gone on so far this week may be of benefit. There is this band SHEL who is staying with our family for around a week, and the blessings I have seen in this family have kept me going. More on this in a future article, but for now, I have a new brother, a new sister, Lynn and Andrew, and to the girls, know this, a middle age man has learned and been blessed not just from your music, although your music has been incredible, but your lives and relationship with each other is a real thing of beauty and a lesson you will teach and show so many people your career progresses, and rest assured, it will progress.

There is a need I have to go to Tennessee, mixed in with all kinds of other things. I have concerts to play with my wife on Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday yet, and on top of that, realizing I may miss at least one of those dates. My sister and I, (mainly my sister because she has been there) had to sign a DNR (Do Not Resuscitate) order with the hospital my mom is in. My emotions have been happy, sad, confused and more. I would be lying if I said I haven’t shed more tears this week than I have shed in a long time. It is likely my mom will not live more than a few weeks as of this writing. It would also be a lie to say I haven't been blessed more this week than I have in a long time. Let me explain.

Earlier in the week I got a certified letter in the mail, I wrote a little about that last week but it was an incredible blessing when I was expecting an incredible let down. I have spent time with my son; I have been so blessed to get to be with him. While I have expected and practiced tough love, at this point in time, I have never, repeat, never quit loving and wanting the most for my son. I also saw a movie yesterday; I know, I know, a movie? Yep a movie, I went to see UP a review on that later, but what a blessing to see art with an incredible message. This movie had all of that.

I have also had the privilege of working with my wife and her band, also with a loving, serving and caring wife and a wonderful son in law that is as much as any father could ever want for his daughter. Then there is the church where I have the absolute honor and blessing of serving. Let it be clear, while there are some kinks to work out for Mosaic Wichita, there is hope, there are people who clearly love God and want to serve. I find it such a blessing and honor to serve God’s people as their under shepherd.

That is about it for the moment, I wish I had more to say, I wish I had more “meaning: and “life lessons” in this but I just had to put a few words down on paper. I guess if I know anything, while my confidence in people is still strained at times, God finds ways of showing real people in my path that show real love. While I have been hurt, there has been love, while there has been doubt, there has been God. I know that because I have seen God in the lives of those who has shown me love, and been there, including some girls and their family from Colorado, a loving wife, two beautiful children, a son in law, and real friends from a real church. To those who groan, grieve and pray for me, thank you, thank you for allowing me to be real, and allowing me to be who God created me to be.

I have to play the video of the girls who have kept my week from being so tragic. The song is uplifting, but so are the girls. Their only fault is they don't like Mama Mia, but other than that, they would be perfect. To watch the video, just click, otherwise click on the following link.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wpaw8d_mtec


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Monday, June 15, 2009

You Tool! Whose Hand Controls You

Do you realize you are a tool? The truth is, we are all tools whether we like it or not. But the question then becomes, who controls you. You see a tool is an instrument that is of little value unless it is in the hands of a skillful master and used in the way it was intended. I knew this, and believed it, but as usual, I needed a reminder of that and this last week has provided one. Please take the time to read this as it is a sincere effort to express thanks and gratitude, but it is also a chance to share something that I think we can all learn from. I have already shed tears today from this lesson in life, I want it to help others more than you will ever know.

As many know, my wife recently had foot surgery; they had to shave bone spurs off of four of her toes, cut off a bunion, and then stretch her Achilles tendon, all on her left foot. She has not been able to put weight on the foot for 2 weeks, and will be in a cast for a minimum of 4 months, and won’t be able to put a shoe on her foot for around 6 months. Needless to say, stressful and welcome Mr. Mom!

Then there was Monday of last week. We have been leasing our house with an option to buy. This method of purchasing a house is a necessity for an underground house. Thankfully we chose this option as there were some plumbing problems that came about. We were into our 2nd year of a 3 year option and we got notice that our landlord, who has been wonderful by the way, has had to file bankruptcy. We were told that his trustee, attorney had informed him to not let us know and we would just get an eviction notice within 3 – 6 months. For a family that has made the effort to develop a co-op for chickens and a garden for people in his church, and has started planning activities where the neighbors can start to get to know each other, the thought of having to move has made us sick. We have contacted a realtor about what we need to do to buy the house but haven’t heard anything back yet. I guess that with the economy, there is still a chance we could loose the house, we just don’t know.

Then there are the activities at church, we had a band stay with us the last couple of days from Battle Creek Michigan, and will have another stay with us next week for a week. Then there are the minimum of 6 concerts I will be playing in along with my wife, son in law, our band and another band over a 7 day period. Of course the band from Ft. Collins Colorado will be staying with us for 7 days.

Now don’t get me wrong, the bands with us, the concerts they are a great thing for us to do and all of the things centered on serving and ministering to people. The truth is I love the person of the Real St. Nicholas and the concept of Santa Claus for a reason. I love to give, and I can think of few other things in life that gives me that kind of joy.

Well all of this has been going on, and it has been a roller coaster week, I even celebrated my 50th birthday last week with a large number of friends, and there has been so many ministries taking place as a result of the article in Dr. Charles Stanley’s In Touch Magazine it has been unreal. But then on Friday, the nerves set in as we received notification that we had a certified letter to pick up at the post office. Now I don’t know about you, but I can think of very few things related to a certified letter that is good. All weekend, my wife and I stressed, even requesting prayer at church related to the only thing we could imagine, our home situation.

This morning, with my shirt put on backwards, inside and out and all, (hard to do for polo) I went to the post office early in the morning to pick up the letter. I walk in, nervous and anxious and picked up the letter from Chester’s. I had done a search over the weekend on a Chester’s in Wichita and could only come up with a steak house, I had no idea what that would have to do with anything. But sure enough, the certified letter was from a 4 star restaurant in Wichita with a top recognized chef. I opened up the letter once I got in the car and saw that a friend of my family, The Virtual Pew and our Church had given my wife and me a gift certificate for what was to us a significant amount to this fine restaurant. This was a blessing that I want to comment on to some extent if you will bear with me a little while longer.

Those who know me know that I don’t do the extravagant things any more, but this morning I kind of feel, maybe for the first time in a long time some of the thoughts that Jesus experienced when he had the expensive oil poured on his feet. People sometimes give gifts to the church I pastor or to The Virtual Pew. I am grateful for those gifts more than you know, but this morning, I experienced something personal. Something personal is something that you can’t ignore. Someone thought enough of my wife and me that they wanted to bless us with something extravagant. I realized this morning, that that personal touch is something that touches in ways we can’t even comprehend. This morning I shed tears over the gift, why? Because someone thought of me and someone thought of my wife.

Now here is the thing about all of this, for years I had issues with people with money, and the truth is I believe Jesus meant exactly what he said when he said it is as easy for a camel to get through the eye of a needle than it is for a rich man to get into the kingdom of Heaven. Here is what I have come to realize from study and searching though; there are those with money who don’t see their money as their money. They see the importance of using their money for the Kingdom of God. God has hit me with this hard in the last 12 hours, once from a stranger, last night at a concert, who said, here is some money for you to use as you want. We gave a band $50 of that money last night, and put the rest in the offering for the church which looses money in its concerts to bless bands and many young people. I was touched by this random act of kindness, then this morning, to have that gift given to my wife and me, I can’t tell you how much I have thought of how some wealthy people, at least by my standard, are willing to give and bless others. One of those over the last 2 days realized and desired to bless my wife and me, how can you express gratitude for things like that.

Here is what I have come to realize, we are all tools, some cheap flea market tools that are used in the wrong way, and others a quality tool like a craftsman that has a lifetime guarantee that is used in the hands of a master. That master controlling the tool can be a carpenter, a mechanic, or any number of other craftsmen, but they are none the less masters. They know how to use their gifts, whether encouragement, loving, money or whatever in a most perfect way. They are willing to listen to the call of the Holy Spirit in how they use those gifts.

Here is a question for you, what kind of tool are you? Are you letting that tool be controlled by the master craftsman, God? Or are you allowing yourself to control that gift, or maybe even an enemy greater than any enemy you know who has no desire for that tool to be used for good?

I have been blessed today, I am so grateful that I felt the love of another human being, I had to pass the phone to my wife so she could say thank you to that person as I started to cry this morning. I realize, as does this individual, that they are a tool from God and are used by God. I realized a long time ago that people that have supported this ministry and the work my wife and me do are special, each gift has been special and needed, but it is rare that we get to experience the “personal” end of things and it feels good. I am reminded today, if it feels good for my wife and me, how good will it feel for someone else who are not so used to seeing the blessings of God? I am reminded of how God uses people in the area of gifts this morning from a passage of scripture, but before I say that, I want to say thanks to those who have given to not only Mosaic, and The Virtual Pew, but also my wife and me. May we all realize that God can use us in the giving of gifts? Now that passage of Scripture that I hope inspires all of us.

Matthew 7: 11 ~ As bad as you are, you still know how to give good gifts to your children. But your heavenly Father is even more ready to give good things to people who ask.

The following is a great video that illustrates a huge part of the teaching today. Just click on the video, if the video don’t appear, just click on the following link:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OxQTU0YCQdE



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Thursday, June 11, 2009

This Boss Lets His Light Shine

Today I worked on my sermon prep for the week. Well actually I have been working on it for the last few days; I was actually finishing it up today. One of the things I try to do is find videos to use in my messages. They stir up thought, and they actually help me think outside of the box. Some may think the process is easy but it isn’t, sometimes, this part of my preparation takes longer than anything. This week the message continues on the Sermon on the Mount and I am looking at the passage where Jesus speaks about salt and light.

As easy as some may think it is to find videos that fit into a message context, I am kind of anal, or compulsive about things like this. I want the message to come across clear and I want to be in a way that causes people to think in a new and relevant way. I spent hours over the last 2 days trying to find something that reached out, slapped me across the back, and got my attention, and boy did I find it. In fact it made the whole ordeal worthwhile.

Now understand, I think Christians should be shouting from the rooftops, (in a loving caring way of course) that Jesus is alive and well, we should be letting our light shine so brightly that people in darkness can’t help but take notice. This is in part where love and caring come in.

Now not to get off on a rabbit trail, the video I chose got me to thinking about when Jesus was entering Jerusalem during his last week prior to his crucifixion. The religious folk of the time, much like today, started yelling, telling Jesus to tell those praising him for whom he was to shut up. Jesus responded with something like this, “Ya know what, if I told these people to shut up, all of heaven couldn’t stand it and the stones would start yelling their praises.” Now I know he wasn’t talking about the Rolling Stones, but Jesus knew who the Boss was, and it wasn’t Bruce Springsteen.

Here is my challenge to each person who says they are a follower of Jesus, “Are you letting your light shine?” “Are you excited about who Jesus is and what he has done for you?” “Do the stones have to bring recognition to a living Jesus?” “Do you know who the boss is?”

Now that last question is kind of a good lead into the video. Just click on the video below, if it doesn’t appear, simply click on the link.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rTebgVrHEVM



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Tuesday, June 9, 2009

50 Years Worth of Lessons, My Birthday Wish

Late last night I had the intent of sitting down, taking some time today to write several articles related to my reflections on my birthday, (today). As the morning progressed I got caught up in a number of things, including responding to people on various issues with The Virtual Pew, some church related things, plus the reposting of a review I did in 2006 and a new Barney Fife Sermon series. As the day went on I also found myself in some fairly serious issues, two regarding salvation, and another regarding a serious issue for another person I have met through The Virtual Pew. I also had the joy of responding a little to a dear friend I have admired and liked for sometime who has taken some giant strides in his relationship with Jesus. I shed tears, I had questions, and I have had a filled day which will end tonight as a number of friends show up at the house, despite the storms to celebrate my 50 years of life. There were many more people I interacted with, each important, but this is an example of my day.

One of the things I wanted to do was to reflect on a few thoughts I jotted down yesterday. There is no particular order in these things; all are serious, some about me, some about others. All are thoughts I would want you to consider regarding my desires as a friend, pastor, or acquaintance and each item is something I think most people would also appreciate. I can’t speak for them though, I can only speak for myself.

First, hurting people; they are everywhere yet we refuse to see them sometimes. I have prayed from early on when I first came to know Jesus that my desire, my hope is for God to allow me the opportunity to reach out to, and show hurting people that they are loved. This has been a passion because I hurt so much prior to coming to know Jesus. The truth is, I still hurt at times, and I try not to hide it. Yet, despite the hurt, heartache and pain, it seemed as if few cared. I have asked God for a tender heart to see people as he sees them. I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I am getting there. I literally wept today as a friend described his journey to find Christ and of the part I played in that journey. I really do care about each and every single person I come into contact with. That doesn’t mean I give equally to all. I have come to a conclusion that a person has to want help. I have also come to the conclusion that when I love, unconditionally, without judgment, the Holy Spirit will work and that person will be much more receptive to asking me questions and listening to me as I tell them about my relationship with Christ. Sometimes, just like today, I find that God and his Holy Spirit have worked in the process, doing their job. What an honor to know I am learning to see people in the same way Jesus sees them.

Second, I have learned I can feel more compassion and love for people when I look into their eyes. So many relationships are built on everything other than an ability to get to know each other. Despite having a ministry on the internet, and another that works with face to face contact, I have learned, when you look at a person in the eyes, you can see their honesty, but more importantly they can see yours. I value the fact that many people who know me know I am real. I don’t pretend to be anything other than who I am. I will say on this point though, nothing hurts hardly as much as looking someone in the eyes, and having them lie to you. There is an old saying that the eyes are the pathway to the soul. I think that came about because there is likely a measure of truth to it. I do know this, try it, it is harder to not help someone when you look into their eyes. People need to know you care, you need to know they hurt and seek, you and they, know that better when there is eye contact.

Third, this is seemingly unrelated but if you think about it, it really isn’t. Please don’t take this wrong, but at least in my case, quit trying to build relationships with me based on business. I want no more solicitation for networking, pyramid schemes, whatever you want to call it. To be honest, it doesn’t motivate me and I have no desire to get rich. I have all I need! You likely have no idea how important it is to reach a soul for the kingdom of God because you are likely pulling others into a scheme that seems to have the intent of helping someone else, but honestly, it seems like a scheme to help you more than others. While these things may be good for some, I see, and have little value for them. I see value in souls, and I have had far more relationships ruined because of people trying to get me involved in their product. They say they saw the potential for my ministry to have more money, and in reality, as soon as I don’t do their thing, they run away from me like a drunk being chased on an episode of the television show Cops. I believe what Jesus said, it is easier for a rich man to get into the kingdom of heaven than it is for a camel to go through the eye of a needle. If you love me and want to be my friend to share in life, fine, I don’t care if you do Amway, Shaklee, or whatever, but if as a condition of friendship you want me to sign up to be your next link in your network pyramid, stay away. I don’t have the time, desire, or interest. Other things move me and you will likely find a better friend in another location. This doesn’t imply that I don’t want to be friends if you are wealthy, I know many wealthy people, some who are my friends. Our relationships are built on other things than wealth. The amazing thing is, the majority of real friends I have with wealth have never asked me to join their network. God loves all people despite their social economic status.

Fourth, for all of us, we need to quit making excuses. There are important things in life, and there is, I believe, still a lot of help out there if we accept it. The truth be told though, it amazes me at people I try to help and they have an excuse to not listen to the advice I share with them. It could be access to a free medical clinic, advice on how we show others love, how to access social security, housing or any number of things. It seems as if we often make excuses for not getting things done. I know that on this one, I have a ways to go, yet, I am making the effort. I try to not commit to so much, it is one of the reasons I don’t have time to develop my network to make myself rich. I am more concerned about building up treasures in Heaven than I am here on earth. The investment in people is more valuable than the investment in my bank account. I have tried to learn from others and see value in that, but you will never accomplish anything as long as an excuse lies between you and the future. I have this saying I use, “can’t could never do nothing if it didn’t try.” Listen, learn, and go for it. If you don’t succeed, learn from your mistakes and go after it again. This brings me to my fifth point.

Point number five, and it is the reason The Virtual Pew exists, go for your dreams. Don’t let anyone steal your dreams. It is possible that God has given you your dreams and your visions for the future. Don’t go to your deathbed wondering; what if? I believe God gives passions and desires; I believe God is God and he will help make a way. I know because I read, talk to, and see everyday the impact The Virtual Pew has had on others. To be a part of changing lives is something you can’t put a dollar mark on. Don’t get me wrong, there are people who hate me, people who say I promote myself and the ministry too much, but they are wrong. I could care less what others think of me, as long as God uses me to touch people who need the touch and love of Christ. I have seen that happen, it is my dream, it is my passion. I am blessed to know that God has allowed me in whatever way he has, to see and experience those moments.

Sixth and lastly, be real, no more fake friends. I can’t think of hardly a thing that makes a person feel worse than feeling like they have been used. There are many resources out there on developing real and lasting relationships, use them but even then it won’t be real unless you are real. The best resource to learn this, I believe is the Gospels in the Bible, the first four books of the New Testament, Matthew, Mark, Luke and John, personally Luke is my favorite. Jesus was a real friend, even to the one who would betray him until the very end. Understand this though, real friendship requires real sacrifice. I know that, have experienced that. I have also failed in that; unfortunately there are some that know both of these to be true in my own example.

I have learned a few things in these 50 years of life, the above are just a few of those things in relation to who I am and what I believe. I suspect God has a lot more he is going to show me. I suspect there are things I will change my mind on in the future and I will realize how much I don’t know. I realize now there is a lot more I don’t know than I do. One of the last things I want is people saying about me that I am someone who act like I know it all; I don’t and don’t want to give that impression. I have learned that when I keep my mouth shut and let others talk and express their opinion they will learn that, and that I in return have the opportunity to learn more. I suspect though, that this week I will once again hear and see people who disagree with me on the things mentioned above, it is because they likely see more value in who they are than who I am. Thankfully Jesus takes me as I am, just as he will accept and take you as you are. I have learned that and hopefully many of you reading this have as well.

The following is something to me from me. To see this present just click on the video, if the video don't appear, click on the following link:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MjF1bG5LUcs


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Now for those that do not know, make sure you check out the numerous articles and blogs by checking out the archives. If visiting The Virtual Pew or MySpace they are archived on the left hand side of the page. Scroll down to where you see newer or older listed under archives and then click there. There are hundreds of postings so make sure to check out the archives. You can also contact me for a free e-book pre edit version of The Keystone Kid at mike@thevirtualpew.comYou can visit http://www.thevirtualpew.com/ and on the front page down on the left side you sill see our store. Your purchase provides needed funds to The Virtual Pew. If you do not see something to purchase you can click on the search engine, (do not put anything in the search box at this time). You will be taken to Amazon where you can search for anything you desire. Hopefully you will consider a gift to The Virtual Pew.

Now I get asked this quite often, Can we repost your blogs or articles? The short answer to that is, what an honor that you would ask, and by all means, spread the word.Here is our contact information

The Virtual Pew
P.O. Box 17731
Wichita, KS 67217

Click on the following links to learn more about The Virtual Pew

Donations to The Virtual Pew

http://www.furches.org/donations/index.html

The Virtual Pew

The Virtual Pew Blog

Personal Furches Web Site

Mary Jane Furches MySpace Page

Mike Furches MySpace Page

Mike Furches MySpace Blog

Hollywood Jesus

Reviews With Mike

The Virtual Pew Sermons

The Virtual Pew News

MySpace Hollywood Jesus Group

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The Virtual Pew Live Radio Web Page

To Subscribe to The Virtual Pew Live Feed

Phone Number to Call During The Virtual Pew Live Show, (Please never call prior to the start of the show) - (646) 716-8587

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Sermons from Barney Fife: The Value of Being Me

The Virtual Pew
Presents
Sermons From Barney Fife

You know Barney teaches today a valuable lesson, a lesson that today, on my birthday I can relate to. It is important at times to reflect on our life. I have done that over the years, I have thought of my life both from the BC (Before I had a relationship with Jesus) and AD (After I quit being so dumb and started having a relationship with Jesus.) I have learned a lot of things in life, I have learned in fact, maybe more so from mistakes than I have successes. I look back and I have come to the conclusion; while I have made many mistakes, I am generally pleased with the direction my life has taken and one thing I know for certain, I will know when my time comes to an end, that I have done my best, and I went after my dreams. I haven’t had much in life in regards to material things, well at least not much according to some, but man have I found some happiness that I never expected despite the difficulties that have attempted to tear me down.

One of the lessons I have learned in life, is we can focus on the bad, or we can focus on the good. I have a post I will make in the future of Don Knots talking about how he loved the character. Many would hate the life time association that went with playing the part of Barney Fife. Truth is though, as Shakespeare once said, “life is more than just an act.” We have to realize that, we can look at the parts we have played, the life we have led, and while that is often times different than who we really are, we should be grateful for the opportunities and privileges we have had.
I know, who many see me as, is not always who I am. My wife knows that, she sees me in my honest and real way more than most ever will. I make an attempt to make her laugh every day and I always succeed. Can we learn from Barney, can we learn to look at ourselves in a different way? Can we separate the good from the bad? Can we be fulfilled and satisfied? I have found the answer for me, can you?

To see this sermon from Barney Fife, click the following video. If the video don’t appear, just click on the link below.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y95OMZY_sY4



Click here to follow The Virtual Pew on Twitter

Click here to visit Mosaic Wichita, the Church in Wichita Kansas where Mike is the pastor.

Click Here to Go to The Virtual Pew Daily Verse and Read The Bible in a Year Passages

Click here for booking information to have Pastor Mike come speak or perform, from speaking to music or magic, something for all groups.

Click to visit with Pastor Mike regarding any of your needs. He will respond to each request personally, and if need be refer you to one of our other pastors.

Click to visit and join the new group The Virtual Pew, at MySpace. Become a part of a different kind of Christian group, check out the page for more information,all welcome, including those who are not followers of Jesus.

Click to visit the Virtual Pew Website and become a part of that ministry.

Click to subscribe to my blog

Click to visit and join our sister group at MySpace Hollywood Jesus.

Click to visit Mary Jane Furches' new MySpace Page

Now for those that do not know, make sure you check out the numerous articles and blogs by checking out the archives. If visiting The Virtual Pew or MySpace they are archived on the left hand side of the page. Scroll down to where you see newer or older listed under archives and then click there. There are hundreds of postings so make sure to check out the archives. You can also contact me for a free e-book pre edit version of The Keystone Kid at mike@thevirtualpew.comYou can visit http://www.thevirtualpew.com/ and on the front page down on the left side you sill see our store. Your purchase provides needed funds to The Virtual Pew. If you do not see something to purchase you can click on the search engine, (do not put anything in the search box at this time). You will be taken to Amazon where you can search for anything you desire. Hopefully you will consider a gift to The Virtual Pew.

Now I get asked this quite often, Can we repost your blogs or articles? The short answer to that is, what an honor that you would ask, and by all means, spread the word.Here is our contact information

The Virtual Pew
P.O. Box 17731
Wichita, KS 67217

Click on the following links to learn more about The Virtual Pew

Donations to The Virtual Pew

http://www.furches.org/donations/index.html

The Virtual Pew

The Virtual Pew Blog

Personal Furches Web Site

Mary Jane Furches MySpace Page

Mike Furches MySpace Page

Mike Furches MySpace Blog

Hollywood Jesus

Reviews With Mike

The Virtual Pew Sermons

The Virtual Pew News

MySpace Hollywood Jesus Group

MySpace The Virtual Pew Group

The Virtual Pew Live Radio Web Page

To Subscribe to The Virtual Pew Live Feed

Phone Number to Call During The Virtual Pew Live Show, (Please never call prior to the start of the show) - (646) 716-8587

Phone Number to Call During The HJ Live Show, (Please never call prior to the start of the show) - (646) 716-8853

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