The Virtual Pew Daily: August 2011

Wednesday, August 31, 2011

Daily Journal for The Recovery From Religious Abuse Day 74

Today starts a new day; I realize that I have been abused by religion. It took me through Day 8, 9 before I realized this, but I am glad I did. You can go back to see my comments on Day 8 and 9 to see what I am speaking of. I am taking the time to do the exercises as outlined in the book; Recovering From Religious Abuse, 11 Steps to Spiritual Freedom written by: Jack Watts. While I know that hurt and abuse as described and presented in the book are two different things, I have come to the understanding that in regards to taking advantage of me I have in fact been abused. I will admit, one of my greatest concerns is I may have at times abused religion. I don’t think I have but this journey will help me understand where I am at and in the process help others as I journal each day with the steps outlined in the book.

Over the years I have spoken to many people who have gone through religious abuse. Many of them have turned their backs on the church and some on God, but there are those who recognize that the God presented to them by their abusers is not from the Holy Spirit nor is it in fact, God. If anything, those who abuse and refuse to abide by the concept of love is seen by many outside of the faith, and those who walk with God in the faith, as fools. Unfortunately, many people who consider themselves Christian fall into this category. Those who hurt others so badly think they know God so well they have to project their beliefs on others. They use the opinions of others about them regarding their inappropriate actions as a badge of honor because the last thing they want to admit is they haven’t practiced, lived in, or done the things of God. They make excuses to remain in their pharisaic mindset.

I have unfortunately ran into many of those abusers, they misinterpret scripture, they quit churches and have a history which shows they have issues relating to others in a positive way, especially those outside of the church or those they disagree with within the church. They think they are the tools the Holy Spirit uses to accomplish God’s purpose, but ultimately it is their own purpose, thoughts, and egos that are being boosted.

I have discovered something some of the abusers have yet to discover, or likely never will unless they surrender to the teachings of Jesus, including the loving whosoever. Those of us who have found strength in God’s love no longer yield to, or spend much time concerned about their judgment and rejection. For those who have been abused, I encourage you to find peace in God. I know from experience, God delivers peace.

Let me say, there is a movement of churches wanting to make a difference, I am grateful for that. Those who reject us and practice their pharisaic beliefs will never feel comfortable around people who love. The churches making a difference are filled with people who have been hurt by religious dogmas. There is peace that passes all understanding that God gives us. It is worth it because it is in that peace that we experience the freedom God has for us. For that, I am grateful.

For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. ~ Romans 8:38, 39

Let the wicked change their ways and banish the very thought of doing wrong.
Let them turn to the Lord that he may have mercy on them.
Yes, turn to our God, for he will forgive generiously.

“My Thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the Lord.
“And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine.
For just as the heavens are higher than the earth,
So my ways are higher than your ways
And my thoughts higher than your thoughts.” ~ Isaiah 55: 7-9

Make sure to check the blog archive to follow this journal through its entirety, plus an interview with author Jack Watts and the review of the book.

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Today there is a special video for those who would bring others down:
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Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Daily Journal for The Recovery From Religious Abuse Day 73

Today starts a new day; I realize that I have been abused by religion. It took me through Day 8, 9 before I realized this, but I am glad I did. You can go back to see my comments on Day 8 and 9 to see what I am speaking of. I am taking the time to do the exercises as outlined in the book; Recovering From Religious Abuse, 11 Steps to Spiritual Freedom written by: Jack Watts. While I know that hurt and abuse as described and presented in the book are two different things, I have come to the understanding that in regards to taking advantage of me I have in fact been abused. I will admit, one of my greatest concerns is I may have at times abused religion. I don’t think I have but this journey will help me understand where I am at and in the process help others as I journal each day with the steps outlined in the book.

One of the things I miss a great deal about my past is the location of where I lived. I loved the mountains, the ocean, places I love because the environment of my surroundings enabled me to come to a better, closer place with God by his revelation to me through nature. I miss that because as much as I love Kansas, there just isn’t the things I love like the above mentioned. I have to work at finding the time with God I need in an enjoyable, worshipful way. I have to work at it because in times of reflection and meditation I realize and see how much God is alive in me and I in Him.

While I am still relatively young in some ways, I can’t imagine retiring because I love to do the things I do. As I serve others I know I am alive, and God is alive through me. I value and enjoy the opportunity to live and breathe in the things that give me pleasure. In my own healing process, I have discovered that the more I live and allow God to live through me, the more satisfaction, joy and purpose I have in life.

I can’t help but think that as others find a way to spend time with God in the comfort area that best suits them, they will feel more alive, more blessed and more purposeful. For one who went for so long without those things, it is wonderful to live with a fresh view, fresh purpose, and fresh mission with a fresh, living, loving, God.

Abide in Me, and I in you, As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you unless you abide in Me. I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing. – John 15:4, 5

Make sure to check the blog archive to follow this journal through its entirety, plus an interview with author Jack Watts and the review of the book.

To see the video posted below click on the video. If the video isn’t at full scale or doesn’t show up, click on the following link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g-snU6_zv24

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Click to subscribe to my blog

Click to visit and join our sister group at MySpace Hollywood Jesus.

Now for those that do not know, make sure you check out the numerous articles and blogs by checking out the archives. If visiting The Virtual Pew or MySpace they are archived on the left hand side of the page. Scroll down to where you see newer or older listed under archives and then click there. There are hundreds of postings so make sure to check out the archives. You can also contact me for a free e-book pre edit version of The Keystone Kid at mike@thevirtualpew.comYou can visit http://www.thevirtualpew.com/ and on the front page down on the left side you sill see our store. Your purchase provides needed funds to The Virtual Pew. If you do not see something to purchase you can click on the search engine, (do not put anything in the search box at this time). You will be taken to Amazon where you can search for anything you desire. Hopefully you will consider a gift to The Virtual Pew.

Now I get asked this quite often, Can we repost your blogs or articles? The short answer to that is, what an honor that you would ask, and by all means, spread the word.Here is our contact information

Friday, August 26, 2011

New Film The Long Walk, My Story

Over the years I have lived a life that was filled with lies, hidden agendas, and deep pain. All because I was afraid to talk about the physical and sexual abuse I experienced as a child and the life I ended up living as a result of, ‘not knowing better.’

Some will be shocked at the concept of ‘not knowing better’ regarding physical and sexual abuse, especially when the pain comes out in the victim in the form of sexual perversion, and the reality that I became a bully in my relationship with others. As I have stated for a number of years and in my book The Keystone Kid, how is a child who has never known better to have an appropriate understanding of sexuality or relationship if all they have known is abuse? They learn to hide their feelings because those who have abused them have had them hide the events of their life. Many see the life of grown survivors who has not dealt with the abuse, has a hidden agenda due to embarrassment, pain, and more. Many in my life could see through the pain, and anger, while some knew, others couldn’t. In my own healing, my telling of my story, people now understand and many have been helped by my willingness to share my story.

One of the things people ask is if the book The Keystone Kid, or the short movie, The Long Walk is about anger, revenge, hate or what? I challenge, it is about none of those things; it is about the ability to heal through the power of forgiveness. It was through the ability to forgive, that I found healing, strength, and the ability to move on with life, as a new man. That healing for me came later than I would have liked. I am blessed that my story has helped others experience healing earlier than they thought possible.

The short film The Long Walk was made with money from the inheritance from my mother’s death. She was one of my abusers, thus putting me in the unique position of being a male who was abused by various individuals, including their mother. That reality hasn’t been easy, but I have to say, prior to my mother’s death, I learned to forgive, told her that, and was blessed to know of her own faith decision prior to her death and heard her tell me she was sorry and that she loved me. At that point I was able to tell her that I loved her for the first time in over 30 years. It was late in life, but my willingness to forgive and love enabled me to do that. I learned a lot about my mother, including her own issues and abuse. There are stories involved with many that make it harder to judge others.

The Long Walk short film was accepted as a project for Amazon’s Kickstarter. They accept less than ½ of requests and while we had completed the principal shooting, the Kickstarter project is allowing us to finish up the professional make up of the product which will have ample special features, enter the film into film festivals, and start the funding towards the feature film. There are 5 days left in the project and we hope that over this last weekend to bring about awareness to the project and to the issue surrounding abuse. I want people to know, there is hope and healing, I know, I have experienced it. It started with forgiveness, something that wasn’t easy, but required. That doesn’t mean I have forgotten the pain or at times don’t still experience the pain, but the scars are a reminder of the healing and the person I once was. I am a new creature thanks to the power of God and I have found, it is possible to love even those who would do us harm. That isn’t by our power that we are able to do that, it is only from the power of God. He is still changing lives, he is still providing healing, I am grateful!

To find out more about the Long Walk and the Kickstarter Project click here.

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Kickstarter Project and Trailer To The Long Walk
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Now for those that do not know, make sure you check out the numerous articles and blogs by checking out the archives. If visiting The Virtual Pew or MySpace they are archived on the left hand side of the page. Scroll down to where you see newer or older listed under archives and then click there. There are hundreds of postings so make sure to check out the archives. You can also contact me for a free e-book pre edit version of The Keystone Kid at mike@thevirtualpew.comYou can visit http://www.thevirtualpew.com/ and on the front page down on the left side you sill see our store. Your purchase provides needed funds to The Virtual Pew. If you do not see something to purchase you can click on the search engine, (do not put anything in the search box at this time). You will be taken to Amazon where you can search for anything you desire. Hopefully you will consider a gift to The Virtual Pew.

Now I get asked this quite often, Can we repost your blogs or articles? The short answer to that is, what an honor that you would ask, and by all means, spread the word.Here is our contact information

Thursday, August 25, 2011

Daily Journal for The Recovery From Religious Abuse Day 71 & 72

Today starts a new day; I realize that I have been abused by religion. It took me through Day 8, 9 before I realized this, but I am glad I did. You can go back to see my comments on Day 8 and 9 to see what I am speaking of. I am taking the time to do the exercises as outlined in the book; Recovering From Religious Abuse, 11 Steps to Spiritual Freedom written by: Jack Watts. While I know that hurt and abuse as described and presented in the book are two different things, I have come to the understanding that in regards to taking advantage of me I have in fact been abused. I will admit, one of my greatest concerns is I may have at times abused religion. I don’t think I have but this journey will help me understand where I am at and in the process help others as I journal each day with the steps outlined in the book.

Today starts Step 10 of the 11 Step Journey. For this session there is a focus on the reality that God has a purpose for me, I can choose good over evil in my life.

I am confident that for each person that chooses God, that while the journey may be difficult at times, God changes lives and can make things better. I am grateful that I begin the process of seeking healing in my life some time ago. I know for a fact, I am not the same person I used to be. I also know God is not a respecter of persons, if he will change my life for the better, he will change others lives for the better.

I have faith that God will take care of me on my life journey. Over the years some have seen my wife and I as people of faith; not in the charismatic, give me money kind of way, but in the, ‘we know God is going to take care of us,’ way. We know that when we are faithful in the little things, God is faithful in the big things. I have learned that when we practice faith, we learn that we don’t act so much in faith as we do in knowledge. We know when we do what seems like the impossible, trusting God, He will come through and do as he promised. I still need to practice that in my life in all areas related to the abuse I have gone through, whether physical and sexual or abuse from the Church.

I know God is all he says he is, he comes through for me, and in this area of faith, I know God can, and has used that which was meant for evil for good. He has made it clear, there are more benefits to doing good than doing evil.

Jesus answered and said to them, ‘Truly I say to you, if you have faith and do not doubt, you will not only do what was done to the fig tree, but even if you say to the mountain, ‘Be taken up and cast into the sea,’ it will happen. And all things you ask in prayer, believing, you will receive.’ ~ Matthew 21: 21, 22

I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me. ~ Galatians 2:20

Make sure to check the blog archive to follow this journal through its entirety, plus an interview with author Jack Watts and the review of the book.

To see the video posted below click on the video. If the video isn’t at full scale or doesn’t show up, click on the following link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g-snU6_zv24

Click here to read about, and order the book, The Keystone Kid

Click here to follow The Virtual Pew on Twitter

Mike Furches on Faceboook.

The Keystone Kid/Virtual Pew Message Boards

Click here for booking information to have Pastor Mike come speak or perform, from speaking to music or magic, something for all groups.

Click to visit with Pastor Mike regarding any of your needs. He will respond to each request personally, and if need be refer you to one of our other pastors.

Click to subscribe to my blog

Click to visit and join our sister group at MySpace Hollywood Jesus.

Now for those that do not know, make sure you check out the numerous articles and blogs by checking out the archives. If visiting The Virtual Pew or MySpace they are archived on the left hand side of the page. Scroll down to where you see newer or older listed under archives and then click there. There are hundreds of postings so make sure to check out the archives. You can also contact me for a free e-book pre edit version of The Keystone Kid at mike@thevirtualpew.comYou can visit http://www.thevirtualpew.com/ and on the front page down on the left side you sill see our store. Your purchase provides needed funds to The Virtual Pew. If you do not see something to purchase you can click on the search engine, (do not put anything in the search box at this time). You will be taken to Amazon where you can search for anything you desire. Hopefully you will consider a gift to The Virtual Pew.

Now I get asked this quite often, Can we repost your blogs or articles? The short answer to that is, what an honor that you would ask, and by all means, spread the word.Here is our contact information

Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Daily Journal for The Recovery From Religious Abuse Day 70

Today starts a new day; I realize that I have been abused by religion. It took me through Day 8, 9 before I realized this, but I am glad I did. You can go back to see my comments on Day 8 and 9 to see what I am speaking of. I am taking the time to do the exercises as outlined in the book; Recovering From Religious Abuse, 11 Steps to Spiritual Freedom written by: Jack Watts. While I know that hurt and abuse as described and presented in the book are two different things, I have come to the understanding that in regards to taking advantage of me I have in fact been abused. I will admit, one of my greatest concerns is I may have at times abused religion. I don’t think I have but this journey will help me understand where I am at and in the process help others as I journal each day with the steps outlined in the book.

Today I have to admit, I have people I need to forgive and am having some trouble doing it. I recently had a person I thought was a real friend walk away, he walked away despite the sacrifices my family and I had made on his and his families behalf. The truth is, it hurt, I have no idea why, but he refuses to answer emails, concerns or meet with me for any reason. It hurts and it comes from someone I never expected.

I have learned over the years that I need to let this person go of what I believe is their sin against me and at that point, move on, but it isn’t easy. I have done this in the past and with some situations and people it isn’t so bad, but my life in the ‘religious’ world has me experiencing hurt, pain, rejection and a reason to not trust. I realize I’m not the only one who has experienced this, but in some situations like the one I am in now, I am at a loss, do I tell the person I forgive them and in the process how much they hurt me, or just move on?

I know I need to move on and let go. In this situation, I did nothing wrong, and if anything was taken wrong, I have apologized and asked for forgiveness already, at this point, it is on them to see if they honor and respect the concept of Christian community, brotherhood and so forth. I know and have peace in my heart, I did nothing wrong, that isn’t to say they didn’t perceive something to be wrong, but it was never intended. I can’t control what anyone else does; I can only control what I do. I know my security is in God. I can trust God, I would love to trust the human species, I just don’t know if I can.

My prayer is; God I know I need to forgive, it isn’t easy though. I ask that you and your Spirit help me forgive as you have required. Help me be the person I need to be so I can be free to move on and let go of the pain and hurt.

If you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions. ~ Matthew 6: 14, 15

Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. ~ Ephesians 4: 31, 32

Make sure to check the blog archive to follow this journal through its entirety, plus an interview with author Jack Watts and the review of the book.

To see the video posted below click on the video. If the video isn’t at full scale or doesn’t show up, click on the following link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g-snU6_zv24

Click here to read about, and order the book, The Keystone Kid

Click here to follow The Virtual Pew on Twitter

Mike Furches on Faceboook.

The Keystone Kid/Virtual Pew Message Boards

Click here for booking information to have Pastor Mike come speak or perform, from speaking to music or magic, something for all groups.

Click to visit with Pastor Mike regarding any of your needs. He will respond to each request personally, and if need be refer you to one of our other pastors.

Click to subscribe to my blog

Click to visit and join our sister group at MySpace Hollywood Jesus.

Now for those that do not know, make sure you check out the numerous articles and blogs by checking out the archives. If visiting The Virtual Pew or MySpace they are archived on the left hand side of the page. Scroll down to where you see newer or older listed under archives and then click there. There are hundreds of postings so make sure to check out the archives. You can also contact me for a free e-book pre edit version of The Keystone Kid at mike@thevirtualpew.comYou can visit http://www.thevirtualpew.com/ and on the front page down on the left side you sill see our store. Your purchase provides needed funds to The Virtual Pew. If you do not see something to purchase you can click on the search engine, (do not put anything in the search box at this time). You will be taken to Amazon where you can search for anything you desire. Hopefully you will consider a gift to The Virtual Pew.

Now I get asked this quite often, Can we repost your blogs or articles? The short answer to that is, what an honor that you would ask, and by all means, spread the word.Here is our contact information

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Daily Journal for The Recovery From Religious Abuse Day 69

Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ has also forgiven you. ~ Ephesians 4:31, 32

How blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven,
Whose sin is covered!
How blessed is the man to whom the Lord does not impute iniquity,
And in whose spirit there is no deceit!
When I kept silent about my sin, my body wasted away
Through my groaning all day long.
For day and night Your hand was heavy upon me;
My vitality was drained away as with the fever heat of summer.
I acknowledge my sin to You,
And my iniquity I did not hide;
I said, ‘I will confess my transgressions to the Lord’;
And You forgave the guilt of my sin. ~ Psalm 32: 1-5

Make sure to check the blog archive to follow this journal through its entirety, plus an interview with author Jack Watts and the review of the book.

To see the video posted below click on the video. If the video isn’t at full scale or doesn’t show up, click on the following link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g-snU6_zv24

Click here to read about, and order the book, The Keystone Kid

Click here to follow The Virtual Pew on Twitter

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The Keystone Kid/Virtual Pew Message Boards

Click here for booking information to have Pastor Mike come speak or perform, from speaking to music or magic, something for all groups.

Click to visit with Pastor Mike regarding any of your needs. He will respond to each request personally, and if need be refer you to one of our other pastors.

Click to subscribe to my blog

Click to visit and join our sister group at MySpace Hollywood Jesus.

Now for those that do not know, make sure you check out the numerous articles and blogs by checking out the archives. If visiting The Virtual Pew or MySpace they are archived on the left hand side of the page. Scroll down to where you see newer or older listed under archives and then click there. There are hundreds of postings so make sure to check out the archives. You can also contact me for a free e-book pre edit version of The Keystone Kid at mike@thevirtualpew.comYou can visit http://www.thevirtualpew.com/ and on the front page down on the left side you sill see our store. Your purchase provides needed funds to The Virtual Pew. If you do not see something to purchase you can click on the search engine, (do not put anything in the search box at this time). You will be taken to Amazon where you can search for anything you desire. Hopefully you will consider a gift to The Virtual Pew.

Now I get asked this quite often, Can we repost your blogs or articles? The short answer to that is, what an honor that you would ask, and by all means, spread the word.Here is our contact information

Thursday, August 18, 2011

Daily Journal for The Recovery From Religious Abuse Day 68

Today starts a new day; I realize that I have been abused by religion. It took me through Day 8, 9 before I realized this, but I am glad I did. You can go back to see my comments on Day 8 and 9 to see what I am speaking of. I am taking the time to do the exercises as outlined in the book; Recovering From Religious Abuse, 11 Steps to Spiritual Freedom written by: Jack Watts. While I know that hurt and abuse as described and presented in the book are two different things, I have come to the understanding that in regards to taking advantage of me I have in fact been abused. I will admit, one of my greatest concerns is I may have at times abused religion. I don’t think I have but this journey will help me understand where I am at and in the process help others as I journal each day with the steps outlined in the book.

One of the things I did some time ago was to forgive those who abused me, whether, physically, sexually, of spiritually. It was one of the best things I have done. I don’t know if those I have forgiven fully understand the forgiveness that has been offered, mainly because a part of my ministry is helping others who have been abused. There is an assumption that because I choose to help others, that I haven’t forgiven them. This couldn’t be further from the truth.

I know that abuse is a cyclical thing, my abusers; at least many if not all of them were abused themselves, especially those sexually abused, but not just them, many others I have come into contact with that has been spiritually abused. The cycle is something hard to understand unless you have been there. I am grateful that God gave me the courage and ability to address the abuse in my life. I decided it would stop in my life. That isn’t to say it has been easy, it hasn’t, but it is to say, that to get to a place of forgiveness is to discover a place God can work. I am grateful that I hear daily from people who have been blessed by the work God has given me. While I care for those I have forgiven, if they aren’t okay with my work then that is on them. I’m not wishing anything negative on them; instead, I am finding satisfaction in doing the things God has done for, and through me. God has truly taken the tragic events of my life, the abuse of all types, and allowed me to see him work.

There is much good that has come about through my abuse, it isn’t to say I am thankful for it, I am not, but I am thankful for the work I have seen God do. He truly can take that meant for evil, and turn it around for good if we allow him to by forgiving those who have done us harm.

It was for freedom that Christ set us free. ~ Galatians 5:1

Beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body; and be thankful. Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you, with all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with thankfulness in your hearts to God. Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father. ~ Colossians 3: 14-17

I will give thanks to You, O Lord my God, with all my heart,
And will glorify Your name forever.
For Your loving kindness toward me is great,
And You have delivered my soul from the depths of Sheol. ~ Psalm 86: 12, 13

Make sure to check the blog archive to follow this journal through its entirety, plus an interview with author Jack Watts and the review of the book.

To see the video posted below click on the video. If the video isn’t at full scale or doesn’t show up, click on the following link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g-snU6_zv24

Click here to read about, and order the book, The Keystone Kid

Click here to follow The Virtual Pew on Twitter

Mike Furches on Faceboook.

The Keystone Kid/Virtual Pew Message Boards

Click here for booking information to have Pastor Mike come speak or perform, from speaking to music or magic, something for all groups.

Click to visit with Pastor Mike regarding any of your needs. He will respond to each request personally, and if need be refer you to one of our other pastors.

Click to subscribe to my blog

Click to visit and join our sister group at MySpace Hollywood Jesus.

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Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Daily Journal for The Recovery From Religious Abuse Day 67

Make sure to check the blog archive to follow this journal through its entirety, plus an interview with author Jack Watts and the review of the book.

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Click to subscribe to my blog

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Now for those that do not know, make sure you check out the numerous articles and blogs by checking out the archives. If visiting The Virtual Pew or MySpace they are archived on the left hand side of the page. Scroll down to where you see newer or older listed under archives and then click there. There are hundreds of postings so make sure to check out the archives. You can also contact me for a free e-book pre edit version of The Keystone Kid at mike@thevirtualpew.comYou can visit http://www.thevirtualpew.com/ and on the front page down on the left side you sill see our store. Your purchase provides needed funds to The Virtual Pew. If you do not see something to purchase you can click on the search engine, (do not put anything in the search box at this time). You will be taken to Amazon where you can search for anything you desire. Hopefully you will consider a gift to The Virtual Pew.

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Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Daily Journal for The Recovery From Religious Abuse Day 66

Today starts a new day; I realize that I have been abused by religion. It took me through Day 8, 9 before I realized this, but I am glad I did. You can go back to see my comments on Day 8 and 9 to see what I am speaking of. I am taking the time to do the exercises as outlined in the book; Recovering From Religious Abuse, 11 Steps to Spiritual Freedom written by: Jack Watts. While I know that hurt and abuse as described and presented in the book are two different things, I have come to the understanding that in regards to taking advantage of me I have in fact been abused. I will admit, one of my greatest concerns is I may have at times abused religion. I don’t think I have but this journey will help me understand where I am at and in the process help others as I journal each day with the steps outlined in the book.

Over the years I have come to accept myself for who I was, and more importantly, who I am as a result of the life and situations I have lived. Getting to a place of peace is a place I have enjoyed, and while I don’t know if others who have issues with my story are at that place, I am. I am happy where I am at, if others aren’t, that is more on them than me. To be the person God wants me to be is between me and God, I hope each person finds that place, but in finding it, they don’t hide, nor ignore their own experiences. There are things each of us needs to seek forgiveness for, and people to ask forgiveness from. God provides healing in that place, I am grateful I have experienced more healing than I once thought possible.

God is all powerful, he has given me strength to share, and do things I never thought possible. I know he can do that for others who choose to be set free from their past, whether a victim of abuse, or an abuser. God provides liberty and forgiveness to start over. I realize I have to have God as will anyone else to succeed over the long haul. I know I could, and at times have, slipped back to poor attitudes where the abuse in my life has more of an impact than I would like, I am grateful though, at least up to this point, I am still there, and surrendering to the things of God has. It isn’t easy but it is worth it and the reason why I have continued my walk with God for some time now.

“I know the plans that I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.” ~ Jeremiah 29:11

Joseph said to them, “Do not be afraid, for am I in God’s place? As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good in order to bring about this present result, to preserve many people alive. So therefore, do not be afraid; I will provide for you and your little ones.” So he comforted them and spoke kindly to them. ~ Genesis 50:19-21

Make sure to check the blog archive to follow this journal through its entirety, plus an interview with author Jack Watts and the review of the book.

To see the video posted below click on the video. If the video isn’t at full scale or doesn’t show up, click on the following link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g-snU6_zv24

Click here to read about, and order the book, The Keystone Kid

Click here to follow The Virtual Pew on Twitter

Mike Furches on Faceboook.

The Keystone Kid/Virtual Pew Message Boards

Click here for booking information to have Pastor Mike come speak or perform, from speaking to music or magic, something for all groups.

Click to visit with Pastor Mike regarding any of your needs. He will respond to each request personally, and if need be refer you to one of our other pastors.

Click to subscribe to my blog

Click to visit and join our sister group at MySpace Hollywood Jesus.

Now for those that do not know, make sure you check out the numerous articles and blogs by checking out the archives. If visiting The Virtual Pew or MySpace they are archived on the left hand side of the page. Scroll down to where you see newer or older listed under archives and then click there. There are hundreds of postings so make sure to check out the archives. You can also contact me for a free e-book pre edit version of The Keystone Kid at mike@thevirtualpew.comYou can visit http://www.thevirtualpew.com/ and on the front page down on the left side you sill see our store. Your purchase provides needed funds to The Virtual Pew. If you do not see something to purchase you can click on the search engine, (do not put anything in the search box at this time). You will be taken to Amazon where you can search for anything you desire. Hopefully you will consider a gift to The Virtual Pew.

Now I get asked this quite often, Can we repost your blogs or articles? The short answer to that is, what an honor that you would ask, and by all means, spread the word.Here is our contact information

Thursday, August 11, 2011

Daily Journal for The Recovery From Religious Abuse Day 64/65

Today starts a new day; I realize that I have been abused by religion. It took me through Day 8, 9 before I realized this, but I am glad I did. You can go back to see my comments on Day 8 and 9 to see what I am speaking of. I am taking the time to do the exercises as outlined in the book; Recovering From Religious Abuse, 11 Steps to Spiritual Freedom written by: Jack Watts. While I know that hurt and abuse as described and presented in the book are two different things, I have come to the understanding that in regards to taking advantage of me I have in fact been abused. I will admit, one of my greatest concerns is I may have at times abused religion. I don’t think I have but this journey will help me understand where I am at and in the process help others as I journal each day with the steps outlined in the book.

Today starts Step 9 of the 11 Step journey of the journal process. The focus of this section is on forgiving the abusers.

Over the years I have had to come to the realization in my own life, the issues of pain and abuse in my life had to stop with me. In some ways, that has been a very difficult thing to do, but in others, it has been liberating. That isn’t to say everything is positive in my experiences. A part of my recovery was getting to the place of being brutally honest and speaking my mind. This still isn’t easy, but I am doing a better job at it. This isn’t always received in a positive way. Folks say they would rather someone be honest as opposed to beating around the bush and never getting to the point, but when it is practiced, you learn quickly, not everyone wants honesty. In my recovery and the future of my family, it implied being honest about everything. I have also learned the importance of forgiving others; it is in part the theme of my book, The Keystone Kid and certainly the short movie, The Long Walk.

This mornings readings talk about accepting, even encouraging adversity, I don’t know if I want that, or can encourage that. It seems as if adversity comes whether I encourage it or not. I know God builds character, endurance and strength through adversity, but I don’t want to give credit for the good that abuse can do. I know this, God can use that intended for evil and encouraged by the enemy and turn it to good, but that is an entirely different scenario. I would rather say this, ‘God I don’t want adversity or struggle, but I ask that when it does occur that you use it and turn it to good as you have in the past.’ I also realize that a part of forgiving others is a way I can maintain a loving relationship, and move forward. This isn’t to deny the pain, but I know, God never has his children run.

Unfortunately the choice of running away is a path many take, it is the easy way, but it isn’t the way that leads to growth or maturity. I have experienced that from learning to forgive those who have done me wrong, both spiritually and sexually. I still have work to do, progress to make, and struggles endure but I know God has been there to build character and joy through the bad in the past, he will do so again today, and tomorrow.

We know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. ~ Romans 8:28

Make sure to check the blog archive to follow this journal through its entirety, plus an interview with author Jack Watts and the review of the book.

To see the video posted below click on the video. If the video isn’t at full scale or doesn’t show up, click on the following link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g-snU6_zv24

Click here to read about, and order the book, The Keystone Kid

Click here to follow The Virtual Pew on Twitter

Mike Furches on Faceboook.

The Keystone Kid/Virtual Pew Message Boards

Click here for booking information to have Pastor Mike come speak or perform, from speaking to music or magic, something for all groups.

Click to visit with Pastor Mike regarding any of your needs. He will respond to each request personally, and if need be refer you to one of our other pastors.

Click to subscribe to my blog

Click to visit and join our sister group at MySpace Hollywood Jesus.

Now for those that do not know, make sure you check out the numerous articles and blogs by checking out the archives. If visiting The Virtual Pew or MySpace they are archived on the left hand side of the page. Scroll down to where you see newer or older listed under archives and then click there. There are hundreds of postings so make sure to check out the archives. You can also contact me for a free e-book pre edit version of The Keystone Kid at mike@thevirtualpew.comYou can visit http://www.thevirtualpew.com/ and on the front page down on the left side you sill see our store. Your purchase provides needed funds to The Virtual Pew. If you do not see something to purchase you can click on the search engine, (do not put anything in the search box at this time). You will be taken to Amazon where you can search for anything you desire. Hopefully you will consider a gift to The Virtual Pew.

Now I get asked this quite often, Can we repost your blogs or articles? The short answer to that is, what an honor that you would ask, and by all means, spread the word.Here is our contact information

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Daily Journal for The Recovery From Religious Abuse Day 63

Today starts a new day; I realize that I have been abused by religion. It took me through Day 8, 9 before I realized this, but I am glad I did. You can go back to see my comments on Day 8 and 9 to see what I am speaking of. I am taking the time to do the exercises as outlined in the book; Recovering From Religious Abuse, 11 Steps to Spiritual Freedom written by: Jack Watts. While I know that hurt and abuse as described and presented in the book are two different things, I have come to the understanding that in regards to taking advantage of me I have in fact been abused. I will admit, one of my greatest concerns is I may have at times abused religion. I don’t think I have but this journey will help me understand where I am at and in the process help others as I journal each day with the steps outlined in the book.

In today’s process the book has me looking at pride, pride that often exists in the lives of those who have been abused. It is pride that often prevents one from sharing or confessing their sins. I have to admit, in the past that played a role in my own recovery. I don’t know if it was as much the things I was proud of as it was my attempt to be recognized. I still find myself being careful not to slip into this place, but it isn’t easy.

One of the things that have helped me is the realization that I am no better than anyone else. In my own belief system there is this concept called The Priesthood of All Believers, this belief has helped me affirm my own giftedness and experiences, but more importantly it has been a reminder that I am no better than anyone else. We are all sinners, in need of God’s grace and forgiveness, and created in the image of God. Knowing that helps me know that while others may have an arrogant, or better than though attitude, in the eyes of God we are all loved. In the realization of my own failures and my willingness to admit those failures there is healing.

While I am far from perfect in this area, I know the progress I have made over the last 30+ years while following Jesus. I realize that my sins, no matter how big or small need forgiveness. I also realize the importance, especially in the last 10 years or more of making sure that I confess and admit my sins. In my willingness to do this I have healing. That isn’t to say I am perfect, I will likely be working on this for the rest of my life, but it is easier now than last year, and is easier today than yesterday because I try to practice the confessing sin, seeing my wrongs, and trying to walk and be an imitator of Jesus. The closer I get to him, the further away I get because I realize my own imperfections and faults. That makes my heart tender and my pride or arrogance less. I realize more than ever, my story isn’t my story, it is and will continue to be, the story of what God has done for me; a worthless sinner deserving of punishment, but thankfully experiencing the grace of God.

If we say that we have fellowship with Him and yet walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth; but if we walk in the Light as He Himself is in the Light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus His Son cleanses us from all sin. If we say that we have no sin, we are deceiving ourselves, and the truth is not in us. ~ 1 John 1: 6-8

Since we have a great High Priest who rules over God’s house, let us go into the presence of God with sincere hearts fully trusting him. For our guilty consciences have been sprinkled with Christ’s blood to make us clean, and our bodies have been washed with pure water.
Let us hold tightly without wavering to the hope we affirm, for God can be trusted to keep his promise. ~ Hebrews 10: 21-23

Make sure to check the blog archive to follow this journal through its entirety, plus an interview with author Jack Watts and the review of the book.

To see the video posted below click on the video. If the video isn’t at full scale or doesn’t show up, click on the following link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g-snU6_zv24

Click here to read about, and order the book, The Keystone Kid

Click here to follow The Virtual Pew on Twitter

Mike Furches on Faceboook.

The Keystone Kid/Virtual Pew Message Boards

Click here for booking information to have Pastor Mike come speak or perform, from speaking to music or magic, something for all groups.

Click to visit with Pastor Mike regarding any of your needs. He will respond to each request personally, and if need be refer you to one of our other pastors.

Click to subscribe to my blog

Click to visit and join our sister group at MySpace Hollywood Jesus.

Now for those that do not know, make sure you check out the numerous articles and blogs by checking out the archives. If visiting The Virtual Pew or MySpace they are archived on the left hand side of the page. Scroll down to where you see newer or older listed under archives and then click there. There are hundreds of postings so make sure to check out the archives. You can also contact me for a free e-book pre edit version of The Keystone Kid at mike@thevirtualpew.comYou can visit http://www.thevirtualpew.com/ and on the front page down on the left side you sill see our store. Your purchase provides needed funds to The Virtual Pew. If you do not see something to purchase you can click on the search engine, (do not put anything in the search box at this time). You will be taken to Amazon where you can search for anything you desire. Hopefully you will consider a gift to The Virtual Pew.

Now I get asked this quite often, Can we repost your blogs or articles? The short answer to that is, what an honor that you would ask, and by all means, spread the word.Here is our contact information

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